Every day we ask and are asked this question. But do we ever truly mean it? Do we ever actually 100% care how the person is, or do you ever answer honestly ourselves? Has the statement ‘How are you?’ become exactly that; something that we think we should ask but have no interest in an answer that is real. A knee jerk response? A greeting without meaning?
So many times in the day I overhear conversations that seem like the people talking are trying their best to talk about what THEY feel, what THEY have done and what THEY think about a certain subject. Even though it is a conversation that involves more than one person, it always seems to be one sided. Or sometimes I start a conversation and I can tell straight away the person I am talking to is not listening at all. Their eyes glaze over or their next sentence has no connection to what I’ve just been saying. They are more interested in incessantly scrolling through Instagram or Facebook.
I am not saying I don’t do it too. It is impossible to completely concentrate on every single word that is said to you. Sometimes my head is in a different place to where my body is.
But I think we need to make more of an effort to really make sure the people around us are ok. And that they are REALLY ok. To try our best to listen to what is being said to us, as it could be a cry for help. It is not a good feeling to think people do not care about you or what you have to say and I would hate to make someone else feel this way. I am sure it is no one’s intention, but I see it happen every day.
It seems everyone I know is suffering from some sort of sadness, anxiety, depression, or stresses in at least one of the aspect of their lives.
Everyone has problems and issues. There is never a moment where something isn't on your mind, however big or small. But sometimes helping others can help you heal. Can help you realise that you are not alone in how you feel or what you are going through. Can make you feel like you have made a difference in making sure someone is really truly ok.
So today ask how someone is and have the time and energy to listen to their answer. It is something so small that can mean so much and make such a difference to the person who is feeling a little under the weather.
“ In a world that has decided that it’s going to lose it’s mind, be more kind my friend, try to be more kind.” -Frank Turner
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